Have you ever wondered why you’re so different, why you feel things so deeply – joy and sadness?
Well, it turns out that introverts are often more sensitive than extroverts.
Where an offhand remark or careless action by someone would go unnoticed by an extrovert, it could hurt an introvert deeply and leave them thinking about it for days.
It’s actually one of the reasons they prefer to keep to themselves, because being exposed to other people can be quite exhausting.
Does that describe you?
Here are 12 signs you’re an introvert who feels things more deeply than others.
1) You have intense relationships
You may not have friends by the dozen, but you share deep connections with the friends you do have.
And when it comes to romantic relationships, they get so intense sometimes that you don’t always know where you end and the other person begins.
Such close and intense relationships make it pretty clear that you’re an introvert who feels very deeply indeed!
2) You’re an empath
It turns out that introverts are known for their empathetic nature.
You have no trouble putting yourself in other people’s shoes, feeling their emotions, and understanding their experiences.
While empathy is something we should all strive to have, too much of it can be emotionally draining and interfere with your life.
On top of feeling your own feelings, you’re picking up on the emotions of everyone you come into contact with.
There’s no off switch when it comes to empathy, so when someone you’re in contact with feels strong emotions, you do too.
3) You’re a thinker
Another sign that you’re an introvert who feels things more deeply than others is your reflective nature.
You spend a significant amount of time contemplating the meaning of life, analyzing your feelings, and thinking about your actions as well as those of the people around you.
You take in everything that takes place in your presence and feel a strong need to give it meaning.
The great thing is that this introspection enables you to gain a deeper understanding of yourself as well as the world you live in.
4) You appreciate real talk
Shallow small talk isn’t very satisfying for people like yourself.
When you interact with others, you’re hoping to have a meaningful conversation that explores various topics and ideas.
You wanna talk about current events and literature. You wanna discuss politics and art and share personal experiences.
And guess what?
Your need for a deep and meaningful conversation is another surefire sign that you’re an introvert who feels things deeply.
5) You believe in “selective” socializing
By that I mean that you’re picky about who you spend your free time with and I can totally relate.
Introverts who feel things deeply don’t like to waste their emotional energy talking to toxic, difficult, or boring people.
They usually have a handful of close friends and family members whose company they enjoy.
What’s more, they’re not really into parties and big social events and will avoid them at all costs.
They prefer smaller, intimate gatherings where they can engage in genuine conversations to large, noisy ones.
6) Need for alone time
Maybe you’ve been told that your need for alone time is eccentric and weird, but for an introvert who feels things deeply, it’s almost a must.
The fact that you take things to heart and feel so deeply about everything you experience can be quite tiring for you.
That’s why it’s essential for you to take some alone time once in a while.
It’s during those moments of solitude that you get to process your emotions, recharge, and regain the energy needed for social interactions.
7) You’re extremely sensitive to criticism
Feeling things so deeply can be both a blessing and a curse.
That’s because any kind of criticism or negative feedback (even when it’s constructive and well-meaning) can have a profound impact on your emotional well-being.
You’ll usually take criticism to heart and spend days, even weeks thinking about it and letting it affect how you feel and behave.
I wouldn’t be surprised to hear that it even makes you cry. All perfectly normal for someone so sensitive.
If you can, try to ask yourself, “What would I say to someone else in this case – if they did what I did?”
Think of constructive criticism as an opportunity to grow, not as an attack, it will hurt less.
8) You love art and music
So, why do art and music appeal to introverts who feel deeply?
My guess? Because they can evoke powerful emotions.
When you look at art or listen to music, you’re able to connect with the artist and musician on a deep level.
And when you create art and music, you have an outlet for expressing all your positive and negative emotions.
Of course, extroverts enjoy art and music too, but I think they have a different relationship to these media than introverts.
9) You’re intuitive and perceptive
You’re quiet, observant, and empathetic and that enables you to have a strong sense of intuition.
You pay attention to what’s going on around you and you listen when your gut is trying to say something.
When it comes to other people, you’re usually a great judge of character.
But that’s not all!
You can pick up on subtle shifts in mood, non-verbal cues, and the emotional undercurrents present in social situations. In other words, you’re extremely perceptive.
10) You have a deep connection with nature
You love to spend time in nature, don’t you?
Remember how I mentioned that you need your alone time? Well, that’s what nature provides.
It’s a serene environment where you can recharge and find solace away from the demands of social interactions.
Nature offers a peaceful retreat where you can destress and connect with yourself.
Personally, I find nothing more soothing when I’m going through a difficult time than going for a hike or a walk in the woods.
11) You run from conflict
So do I.
Or at least, I used to. I’m learning to deal with it.
Some people are actively searching for conflict because they’re unable to express the negative feelings they feel in any other way. You’ll spot them on the street or in the store, just waiting for any excuse to snap.
But for people like us who feel so deeply, conflict can be particularly distressing. We like peace and quiet, and harmony.
It’s no wonder that we’ll go to great lengths to avoid confrontation of any kind.
12) You tend to overthink everything
The final sign that you’re an introvert who feels deeply is your tendency to overthink.
And it’s not just the important, big stuff either, oh no.
You get stuck in your head analyzing random situations and weighing the pros and cons of getting your groceries delivered versus going to the store.
My advice is to try and get out of your head a bit. Leave the overthinking for the important stuff and try to just go with the flow.
Most everyday decisions we make aren’t going to have any big implications on our lives.